Stuck On You? 6 Reasons Why Your CH Cat May Be Extra Clingy
Let’s face it. You very well may have a clingy CH cat.
In fact, a few months ago 75% of readers said their CH cats *love* being close to them. But as some of us know, our cats’ love can be a clingy, dependent type of love.
As much as we all may list our kitties’ clingy tendencies as a favorite characteristic, sometimes it can be a bit much. And that’s just the problem – clingy cats don’t understand that you really do need a few uninterrupted minutes to send those work emails, and they can’t comprehend that sometimes it’s easier to walk through the hallway with a full laundry basket without tripping over a small, furry body.
I must admit that I give in, too. As I type this, I’m sitting on my floor. Ellie’s to the left of me, watching as each letter pops on to the screen. You can only imagine what she does when the cursor moves around. But the reason I’m down here is totally because of her – she wouldn’t leave me alone otherwise.
Recently I’ve noticed several folks talking about this very topic on the Facebook CH Cats and Kittens page.
Sarah asked, “What do you guys do when your kitties meow and carry on? As soon as I sit at the computer, use the phone, or try to do much of anything, Sierra carries on and on, until I pick her up. She is so mommy attached.”
Similarly, Sharrylynn asked the group if our CH kitties demand bonding time like hers does. The overwhelming response? YES.
So why exactly do our cats become so clingy? Here are a few reasons:
- They’re nervous. Some of our CH kitties may feel vulnerable – insecure in their abilities to keep themselves safe. They may stick close to us, since they view us as protectors and providers.
- They’re insecure. Consider any changes that have occurred in your home recently. Have you moved the furniture around? Purchased a new rug that may have a strong odor to it? Changes like these can be intimidating to your cat.
- They’re new. Along those lines, cats who are new to a household, who haven’t found their place in the hierarchy yet, may also feel insecure and may latch on to you. As the provider, you’re seen as an excellent ally and a source of comfort.
- There are mommy issues. If your kitten was separated from her mother too early, it may have resulted in some bonding complications. Perhaps your kitten has problems with trust; perhaps you’re imprinted in her mind as her true mother. Either way, this can result in a very close bond.
They were rescued. Rescued cats may also have trust issues and be overly clingy. Their prior lives may have been difficult, which could have instilled many fears in them. Once they’ve found a forever home, they may worry that it’s temporary, or cling to you out of thankfulness.
- It’s a health issue. Sometimes if clingy behavior develops out of the blue, there could be something else going on behind the scenes. A radical behavior change, like extreme dependence, can signal medical problems. You may want to schedule a quick trip to your vet to rule out any serious issues.
Clingy or demanding?
If none of those possibilities sound like they apply to your cat, consider this: Is your cat clingy or is she simply demanding? (Side note, Miss Ellie definitely falls under the “demanding” category!)
Clingy or needy cats may need you for comfort or support. For example, a clingy cat may not eat unless you’re near. They may spend their day as your quiet shadow and cry out when they’re scared or need your help. Clingy or needy cats may have little confidence, whereas demanding cats may have too much confidence.
Demanding cats are likely “in-your-face,” pushy cats. They’re the ones that jump first into your lap. They’ll yell at you when it’s time for food. They’ve learned that being demanding, usually by meowing or dominating your space, can get them what they want. Often our cats end up training us, which can put us in a tough situation.
But don’t worry, there are ways you can improve your relationship with your cat, no matter if your cat is clingy or demanding. Stay tuned to find out more!
Do you have a clingy cat? Or is your cat more of the demanding type? Please share in the comments!